In western societies there is a belief that to be tough, to show courage, you have to be “strong”. It is believed that to be strong you have to hide your emotions and not be upset about things.
But this belief is a lie.
The truth is that the strongest and most courageous people are those who are prepared to show vulnerability. If you can have the strength and courage to acknowledge that you are upset, or angry, or not sure what to do, then you can attend to those emotions and move on. Failing to acknowledge those things causes them to be trapped inside you and never dealt with. But they do not go away. They stay there until they become too much and you fall apart.
Whether it is dealing with the grief of loss, or the aftermath of trauma, being vulnerable is the best way for you to heal.
Being vulnerable involves acknowledging the emotions you feel.
Being vulnerable involves admitting you need help and reaching out to others for help.
Being vulnerable involves seeking the help of a counsellor when you need it.
When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you will discover the truth of vulnerability as the most accurate measure of courage and strength.