I often write about the importance of learning to feel into your body. It is in your body that the keys to unlock the things that hold you back can be found.
I always write this knowing that it is possible to learn to do this, as I have done. But I am also aware it is not easy to reach there. It is virtually impossible without the assistance of a trauma trained counsellor.
I was reminded of this recently when I read a blog by a trauma yoga teacher.
She wrote about leading a yoga and meditation class in the mental health ward of a hospital. Her clients were people with dissociative disorders.
Feeling Into Your Body Is Something You Have To Learn To Do
Having learned, as I have, to be able to feel into her body in safety, she realised she had to allow for the difficulty these people experienced feeling into their bodies. When you have unresolved trauma from the past it is very hard to feel into your body where all those unprocessed and very scary memories are stored.
This experience forced the teacher to explore how to bring attention inside without being so frightened that you dissociate. She explored how to bring attention inside without feeling like you are floating, disconnected from your internal and external environment.
Being In The External World Is Easy, But Go Into Your Internal World And It Becomes Very Hard
We find it so easy to get angry or irritated by people in our external world, why is it so hard to turn out attention internally to situations in our past that hurt us?
Why is it that we can be courageous in the world around us, but when we come to look in side ourselves and allow us to feel what we find there, we are terrified?
Every Child Needs An Adult Who Loves Them And Can Teach Them How To Self Regulate
If you never had an adult in your childhood who was able to attune to you. Able to teach you how to make sense of what was going on in your body. Able to help you learn how to regulate your emotions so that your internal world is not terrifying. Then how could you learn?
When you lacked someone to guide and teach you then how do you navigate your internal environment?
Trauma Trained Counsellors Learn How To Do This
This is what a trauma trained counsellor knows to do. I have learned how to connect those broken pieces inside. How to piece your body, mind and heart together so that you can feel safe to look inside yourself.
I know these techniques work because I used them myself to learn.
All those trapped memories need to be processed. Until you learn the skills and have someone skilled to walk beside you and help you, you will not be able to process this trauma. And it will cripple your life.
Childhood Memories Of Trauma Are Frightening
Those memories are frightening. They hurt. They are full of a child trying to understand a very frightening world. There is a deep sense of shame, of being wrong. Of thinking that what happened was your fault and because there was something wrong with you.
There is despair at never seeming to get any better. There is rage at the unfair things being done to you. There is hurt that someone who should care for you can do this. There is disappointment that no matter what you try, nothing gets better.
All these terrifying memories are the reason you become numb. Feeling them is terrifying so blanketing them, freezing them, dulling them is the only way to survive. And because they are still there your body reacts to them in the only way it can.
How Your Body Reacts To The Pain
You get terrible fear and pain from these memories.
You get anxious, depressed, you do whatever you can to shut down the memories.
You take pills, you drink too much alcohol, you try an array of drugs, you go on spending sprees, you do any behaviour that is repetitive to drown out those horrible memories and feelings of deep shame and unworthiness.
What You Need
What you need is someone to teach you how to manage those emotions. How to release the feelings of unworthiness, exclusion and shame. How to release these harmful feelings.
You need to take it slowly. To only visit those memories when you have the skills to calm yourself.
Yes you can reach a point where you can make the choice to be who you want to be. A place where you know how to respond to calm yourself. Where you know how to respond to not put yourself in a fight/flight/freeze state. And I can help you with that learning.
Can I Help?
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