{"id":680,"date":"2022-05-19T14:51:45","date_gmt":"2022-05-19T04:51:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/plentifullifecounselling.com.au\/wp\/?p=680"},"modified":"2022-09-07T15:20:37","modified_gmt":"2022-09-07T05:20:37","slug":"10-ways-to-roll-with-lifes-punches-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/plentifullifecounselling.com.au\/wp\/10-ways-to-roll-with-lifes-punches-better\/","title":{"rendered":"10 ways to roll with life’s punches better"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Awareness of the importance of resilience has increased over the past few years. But what is resilience?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most definitions will say that resilience is the capacity of an individual to manage difficult situations by using psychological, social, cultural and physical resources available to them and be able to work out how to use these resources in a meaningful way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

IN SHORT, RESILIENCE IS:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 The ability to bounce back when faced with stress or pressure<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 The ability to fall and pick yourself up<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Knowing when to persevere or decide to stop doing something<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Be able to accept the new reality, even when it is less good, and work to create something that is good enough<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Being able to ask for appropriate help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

RESILIENT PEOPLE ARE NOT:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Always positive and upbeat<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Know how to achieve things on their own<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Never give up<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Tend to be perfectionists.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

RESILIENT PEOPLE ARE:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Less prone to stress<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Have strong problem solving skills<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Accept difficulties as part of life<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Be aware of the situation, their feelings and how other people are behaving<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Accept what they are responsible for and what other people are responsible for<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Experience greater satisfaction in life<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Know how to effectively manage social and emotional areas of life<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 More optimistic<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Not afraid to ask for help<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Less afraid of facing life\u2019s challenges<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Know life can be difficult and doing new things is scary but do them anyway<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Have a strong sense of self and are more confident in their own abilities<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Are creative<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Identify as a survivor not a victim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

BUILDING UP YOUR RESILIENCE<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now you have an idea of what resilience is. Maybe you are thinking you don\u2019t have those skills. Don\u2019t worry, you can build up your resilience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are 10 things you can do to build up your resilience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. When you experience challenges in life, pay attention to what you are feeling, how you are reacting, what your body is feeling. Pay attention also to words or statements that are running through your head. Be particularly aware of statements that tell you that you can\u2019t do this, you are useless, have done something bad, this always happens to me, I shouldn\u2019t be upset by this, I should be able to manage this and so on. Choose to see the experience as something that is outside you, rather than part of you. This means you need to separate your negative words from being about you.<\/li>
  2. Note the attitudes you have around difficulties in life. Again, this is best expressed in your self talk. You may find your self talk is making statements about why this is happening or how hard it will be to cope. These attitudes sound like facts but they are actually unhelpful habitual statements that hold you back. Challenge those thoughts. Are they actually true? Tell yourself those statements are not the truth and that you have the skills, or know who to turn to for help.<\/li>
  3. Derail those unhelpful thoughts with the following practice: STOP Take a few deep, slow breaths Notice what is being said in your mind Identify the thoughts as visitors with opinions, not statements of who you are Choose how you are going to proceed.<\/li>
  4. Establish a daily practice of mindfulness. Take a few minutes out to just sit quietly and pay attention to your breath. Allow yourself to not engage with any thoughts you are thinking. They will come, but you can just notice them and let them go. Practice this at least daily, or a few times a day. when you practice this regularly you can use this when challenging things happen to give yourself time to collect your thoughts and make decisions more effectively.<\/li>
  5. Reach out to others for help.<\/li>
  6. Be aware of the reactions you have when things are difficult. Allow yourself to react, be upset, be angry, feel powerless. Allow yourself time out to explore those feelings. Exploring them mindfully can help. Allow yourself time to sit with the feelings and let them settle. When you feel calmer you can make decisions on how to act.<\/li>
  7. Choose to change your inner dialogue. That is the one where you make a mistake and tell yourself you are useless. Change that so that you say you made a mistake and that is okay. This is a practice you can practice always so that when difficulties arise you don\u2019t default to the negative thoughts. Choose to see your strengths. When you feel calm enough explore what skills and strengths you have that can help you.<\/li>
  8. Don\u2019t fight the difficulties. They have happened and no amount of thinking or railing against it will change things. Explore what you control and what you can\u2019t. The things you control are things you can work through. Those things you can\u2019t control are either things you may be able to seek help from someone else for or are things that you accept and work out how to work with.<\/li>
  9. Develop an action plan with clearly defined and measurable steps to work through. Start off with one small thing you can do that will move you in the direction you want to go in.<\/li>
  10. Remember to look after yourself. Take time out regularly to do things you enjoy and relax you. This allows you to be well rested and less stressed when difficult things happen. That way you are in the best place to work through the difficulties.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    If you would like to talk to me about how I can help you develop resilience, please contact me on 0409396608 or nan@plentifullifecounselling.com.au<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    If you would like to learn more, I write a regular newsletter with interesting information, tips, information on courses, and the occasional freebie. At the moment I have a free mindfulness meditation for anyone who signs up to my newsletter. This meditation offers a way to safely explore your feelings and learn to be okay with them. If you would like to subscribe please click on the link here: http:\/\/eepurl.com\/g8Jpiz<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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