Radical thought isn’t it?
In my years of witnessing the grief of others. Of walking alongside those who have lost someone they deeply love. Of helping people find a way to keep living. In all those years I have found the same thoughts expressed.
The deep love for the one who has passed. And the continuing love with which their passing is honoured and held close, even years after they have gone.
This really is a beautiful expression of love. A continuing expression of love for the one you love.
It is beautiful and dignified to grieve the one you loved.
Even when your eyes are red with tears and your nose runs from all the crying. Your love for the person you have lost is so deep.
It is okay for your heart to hurt with the pain of their physical absence from your life.
It is written that the healing power of grief is found in the realisation that every moment is precious.
Grief teaches you to feel gratitude for what you had, especially now it is gone.
Grief demonstrates the beauty of life, realised when the life of the one you loved has been extinguished.
Yes, that realisation hurts so much. It is a realisation you never want to make, but here you are having to make it.
Gratitude for what you had is not what you want. You want gratitude for what you have. But can you ever fully appreciate what you have until you no longer have it?
Through all the disorientation, devastation and despair of grief there will be an ever after. There will be a life after the one you love is gone. You may not want it, but it will happen.
You might need help to get there, but you will.
If you would like my help finding the love letter, the beauty of life and gratitude for life in the one you loved, please contact me on 0409396608 or nan@plentifullifecounselling.com.au
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