Have you met someone who is constantly telling you their horror story of a traumatic past?
Maybe you do this yourself?
Many people will tell me they retell the story because they can’t let go of it.
I totally get that. I have told and retold my own trauma stories often.
I thought it was to have someone witness my story.
And to a certain extent that was correct. I did want my story witnessed. Just as many people who come to see me want their story witnessed.
I hear you, I believe you.
You want someone to say I hear you.
You want someone to say what was done to you was horrible. A child shouldn’t have been treated that way.
You want to hear the horrified reaction of your listener as they hear your horrible story.
It is important to be heard, believed, and have the extent of your trauma acknowledged.
But there is something more that prompts you to tell the story over and over.
I need help
It is the wounded child seeking help. When that story happened to you as a child, no one came to your assistance. You needed help. Desperately. And no help came.
The next time you feel the need to tell your story, ask yourself. Am I seeking help?
If the answer is yes, then you are the adult who can help your wounded child.
You may not feel able to help your wounded child, and that is where counselling from a trauma professional can be helpful.
And if it is someone you care about who needs help for their wounded child, don’t dismiss them. Listen, ask if their wounded child needs help, and encourage them to see a counsellor.
Can I help?
If you would like to talk to me about how I can help you with your wounded child, please contact me on 0409396608 or nan@plentifullifecounselling.com.au
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