I get asked this a lot.
There is so much misunderstanding of grief.
Add to that the discomfort many people when in the presence of someone who is grieving and you have people being told a lot of things about how long to grieve. About what is “normal”.
AS LONG AS IT TAKES
The reality is grief lasts as long as it takes.
Don’t allow the discomfort of others to make you feel wrong in the way you are grieving or the length of time it is taking.
It takes as long as it takes.
Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
YOU WILL MAKE PROGRESS
Do know that you will make progress. But it will take a long time. You will have good days and you will have days when you feel no better than on the first day.
That is the experience of many other people too.
WHEN TO SEEK HELP
If over an extended period of time (months) you find you are still stuck in the same place you were in when your grief started then you may want to see a counsellor.
HOW TO SUPPORT A FRIEND
If you are supporting someone who is grieving the best approach is to ask the griever what love and support look like at this moment in time. That way you are letting them know you care and want to help. You are also letting them know the help you are prepared to give is what they want and need.
Remember our emotions are what makes us human.
Being sad is a beautiful part of being human.
If you would like to talk to me about how I can help you with your grief, please contact me on 0409396608 or firstname.lastname@example.org
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