Where is the magic wand?

I get a lot of people who come to see me expecting me to have a magic wand I can just wave and make life instantly better.

Sadly, that is not how life works.

It is not how therapy works.

That is not how grief works.

What I can promise you is that I will walk beside you on your journey.

I will listen to you.

I will not give you advice.

I will show you empathy.

I will not tell you it is time to “get over it”.

I will teach you coping skills, but they will be genuine skills, not some flashy suggestion to do a particular thing and ignore your feelings.

I will teach you to listen to your intuition.

To grieve in your own way, at your own pace.

To understand it is normal to find it hard to cope. It is normal to struggle. It is normal to forget things. It is normal to think you are going mad.

There is no fast track through grief.

The more you try to push your feelings down and force yourself to “get over it”, the longer it will take and the greater will be your suffering.

Yes I can help you.

I can teach you very effective coping skills.

But you will have to work, there is no quick fix.

You will have to be patient.

But if you allow me to help you there is much you can learn and grow.

If it has been six months or more since your bereavement and you live on the Sunshine Coast, you may like to take part in Demeter’s Journey. This 6 week workshop will take you on a journey through your grief. You will learn the many ways people grieve, ways to remember your loved one, some coping strategies, your own strengths, and how to move on with life while maintaining the bond to your loved one. You will also have the chance to tell your story in a supportive environment and hear the stories of others who are grieving. This course will run on Tuesdays and is due to start at the end of May/early June. Please contact me if you would like to be part of this.

If you would like to talk to me about how I can help you with your grief or to take part in the workshop, please contact me on 0409396608 or nan@plentifullifecounselling.com.au

If you would like to learn more, I write a regular newsletter with interesting information, tips, information on courses, and the occasional freebie. At the moment I have a free mindfulness meditation for anyone who signs up to my newsletter. This meditation offers a way to safely explore your feelings and learn to be okay with them. If you would like to subscribe please click on the link here: http://eepurl.com/g8Jpiz

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