Did you know that you have a wonderful, highly effective tool to help you when you lose someone you deeply love?
Inbuilt.
Always available.
Requires careful handling and to be able to do its thing.
What is it?
It is Grief.
Grief is a tool that allows you to change your identity in light of your loss.
It is also a tool that allows you to get to know yourself, the Who Am I self, better. Because losing someone will change who you are and you need to know who you are in order to live.
HOW DOES THIS WORK?
Loss of someone you deeply love is disorienting, devastating, painful, confusing, life upending and self concept destroying.
How do you recover from that?
You do that through grief.
Yes, grief is distressing.
But it also motivates you to work to live. To learn how to live with the reality of the loss of the person you loved so much.
A NOTE OF CAUTION
To live after someone you love dies does not involve ending the relationship with the person.
You will most likely continue to relate to that person.
• You will remember them,
• You may allow yourself to be influenced by their interests, values and the way they loved to live their life,
• You may find your own way of being, recognising the benefits that person brought to your life.
Of course, they are no longer there so you will not be able to go places with them, or do the things together you used to do.
But you can remember the things you did together and the places you went. And you can learn new ways of being.
HOW DOES GRIEF HELP?
The pain of grief, the emotions you feel, help you to understand the things about your relationship with that person that mattered.
It helps you to understand what was important about that person.
Loss takes away your sense of who you are, because who you are was related to the person who is no longer with you.
Grief allows you to explore who you are now. It allows you to consider the things that matter to you including your values, life plans and way of living.
Grief allows you to restructure your life so that you can continue living.
NOTE: GRIEF IS NOT EASY
The pain of losing someone you love will always be hard and hurt.
Grief is not easy. But then change never is.
Learning to live without the person you love is change.
Living is something you are going to continue to do.
Learning how to do that is Grief’s gift to allow you to explore how to live.
GRIEF IS A JOURNEY BEST WALKED WITH OTHERS
Remember this journey is not one you will do on your own.
You may have family and friends who will support you.
You may also wish to get more specialised help from a Grief Counsellor.
If you would like to talk to me about how I can help you with your grief, please contact me on 0409396608 or nan@plentifullifecounselling.com.au
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